Nurturing Love: 5 Beautiful Ways to Grow the Bonds of Love with your Child

Nurturing Love: 5 Beautiful Ways to Grow the Bonds of Love with your Child

Family Communication, Parenting
Love is at the core of our existence and the thread that binds us.  It is a primary human emotional need to feel loved. Life is the flower for which love is the honey.  -Victor Hugo Nothing in the world is quite as heart opening as holding your child in your arms and enveloping them with your love.  We watch our children grow and develop through the milestones of their lives, as their character emerges, we nourish and nurture their strengths and individuality, we take photos and sometimes journal the events and happenings.  Knowing this brings us to a deeper realization of how love lasts over and over again and how the simple everyday acts of ‘love’ sustain us in our family life. You express your love for your child…
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What you Don’t Want to Say to Stop Unwanted Behaviors

What you Don’t Want to Say to Stop Unwanted Behaviors

Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
How often do you use the word ‘don’t’ to stop unwanted behaviour in your children? Does it actually work? Most parents say it does not. When I first became aware of the little impact this word has, it threw me. I had no idea how often I was using it, and how often it left me feeling more frustrated and annoyed. The awareness of this word can have a huge impact on the words you choose to guide and teach (discipline) your child. It is fascinating to notice your go-to words in parenting. It was out of my need to actively avoid this word and my own struggles to come up with solutions that inspired me to share with you some alternatives to saying Don't all the time. Don't. It's…
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4 Mindfulness Practices to Move from Surviving to Thriving in Parenting

4 Mindfulness Practices to Move from Surviving to Thriving in Parenting

Parenting Solutions, Tweens 10-12 years
Mindfulness is a sure way to flourish. It can be described as being fully aware of the present moment. The dictionary tells us it is ‘the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something’. Keeping it nice and simple, mindfulness is our ability to notice what is happening within us and around us, without judgement. Mindfulness helps us to not jump forward into the future with the worry of ‘what if’ or constantly lament or revisit the past with ‘but why?’. It helps us to find steadiness in the right here and now, to be “fully present, aware and awake”. With mindfulness you can bring more ease into the smallest of jobs like doing the dishes or a bigger challenge like handling a tantrum (yours or your child’s).…
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Bringing More Calm And Connection into your Parenting

Bringing More Calm And Connection into your Parenting

Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
In parenting, We can't be peaceful 100% of the time. We can't be patient 100% of the time. When we accept this, we can begin to be gentler with ourselves as parents. We can see ourselves as human and give ourselves the same level of forgiveness as we give our child. One of the most common questions I am asked in my workshops and coaching practice is, “How do I handle myself in the moment?” Parenting in the moment is just that: in the moment. Having simple strategies, words or phrases to help practice mindfulness and staying connected to your child at any given moment can go a long way in easing overwhelm, stress and pressure. Indeed, it is during the most difficult times that we are able to gain the…
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10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

Parenting
Positive Parenting means all things to all parents. It is not one size fits all. Sometimes it is referred to as gentle guidance or positive discipline. The commonalities, however, in most people's approach to positive parenting is that it actively avoids punishment and control. Instead it leans more towards connection to cultivate cooperation, empathy and natural cause and effect of our actions. I have found Positive Parenting has worked for me. It has helped me develop some pretty amazing skills and also to really know myself. It is still a challenge to find the right balance but after thirteen years of parenting I have gained some fantastic insights. I hope these insights support you in some way to stick with your positive parenting journey and whatever that is for you.…
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20 Ways To Really See the World Through Your Child’s Eyes

20 Ways To Really See the World Through Your Child’s Eyes

Kids 5 - 12 years, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
How to Mindfully Recharge your Parental Empathy Bank Parenting has the potential to deplete us of all energy and form, leaving us feeling fatigued, confused, frustrated and overwhelmed. There are days when parenting can deplete us so profoundly that it becomes exceedingly difficult to see past our immediate day to day needs. During times like this, it is possible to instantly shift perspective by looking at the world through your child’s eyes. By doing this you can allow yourself a refreshing new glimpse of the world, you can create those heart to heart moments that nurture empathy and acceptance, bringing a little zest into your step and a bit of zing into your heart. 20 Mindfulness Practices….To see the world through your child’s eyes… 1. Smile fully and deeply with…
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Nurturing Encouragement

Nurturing Encouragement

Parenting
Being an encouraging presence and supporter to children is one of the most rewarding roles we play in life!   Encouragement plays an important role in raising children.  It gives our children wings as well as helping us as parents to model the many character strengths of trust, patience, persistence, optimism and so many more… Parenting with encouragement is about: nurturing self belief preserving positive self image helping children  to see that all things are possible trusting in our children and supporting deeply so they can TRUST THEMSELVES I remember when my son was 3 Years old we went to the park and he watched an older child effortlessly cross the bars.  I saw a spark in his eyes and he reached up to the bars to have a go. …
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Encouraging Patience In Ourselves and Our Children: Nurturing Patience Part 2

Encouraging Patience In Ourselves and Our Children: Nurturing Patience Part 2

Parenting
Patience can't be acquired overnight. It is just like building up a muscle. Every day you need to work on it. ~ Eknath Easwaran *This is part two of the Nurturing Patience series by Kerry Spina* Patience is a character strength that helps us to slow down and practice mindfulness. It helps us work at our own natural pace. It allows us to respond to life’s challenges rather than react to them. Patience brings more love, calm, peace and acceptance into our life. Modeling Patience A simple and effective way to encourage patience is with your tone of voice and body language. It is said that communication is 93% nonverbal (35% Body language, 58% tone) and 7% words. So it is not only what is said but how it is…
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Patience is Not Just About Waiting: Nurturing Patience Part 1

Patience is Not Just About Waiting: Nurturing Patience Part 1

Family Communication, Parenting
Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience ~ Rolph Waldo Emmerson Patience is a character strength that helps us to slow down and practice mindfulness. It helps us work at our own natural pace. It allows us to respond to life’s challenges rather than react to them. Patience brings more love, calm, peace and acceptance into our life and the lives of others. Patience is not just about waiting. Pace yourself with patience "I don’t have enough time." “I didn’t get everything done today." "Come on, Hurry up. We are late.” How often do we say and feel these things? Patience takes on a whole new meaning when we realise it is not just a reaction to a single event – such as trying to get children in…
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Nurturing Gratitude At Home

Nurturing Gratitude At Home

Family Communication, Parenting, Tweens 10-12 years
The Power of a Meaningful Thank You  Encouraging your child to say thank you and to feel gratitude is a process. Nurturing gratitude comes with practice, modelling, acknowledging and experiencing. Regardless of whether or not children appear thankful, they can learn to express their gratitude in meaningful ways. So how do we do it? How can we help our child to feel grateful when they are given something, or feel thankful for small everyday happenings – like food and clothing? A simple and effective way to encourage gratitude within your family is with a ‘Meaningful Thank-you’. Giving meaningful thank-yous, brings greater self-awareness and strengthens relationships with others through appreciation, kindness and respect. There are many ways to give a meaningful thank you, with letters, cards, and a hug, a pat…
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