Your Child May Have The Best Solution For Unwanted Behavior

Your Child May Have The Best Solution For Unwanted Behavior

Family Communication, Help By Age & Stage, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Positive Discipline, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
My then 3-year old son and I were at our favorite family camp one summer. My son loved to play in the woods – grabbing handfuls of red earth, and throwing them up in the air like fireworks. The beautiful color and sound filled him with joy as the dirt rained down over his head and body. I, on the other hand, felt no joy when he laid his dirt-filled head of hair onto the pillow that night. I told him that if he wanted to play in the dirt, that was fine, but he’d have to take a shower after so that we could get the dirt out of his hair. Seems like a very logical consequence, right? However, my son hated the shower. He screamed, cried, and hollered…
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How to Set Limits with Your Child (That Stick!) in 3 Easy Steps

How to Set Limits with Your Child (That Stick!) in 3 Easy Steps

Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Positive Discipline
I keep a notebook about each of my children in which I record major events, questions, and notes from parent-teacher conferences and other meetings. I happened to be thumbing through my daughter’s notebook while at a doctor visit last month, and a folded piece of paper fell out.   On it, I’d  described a challenging parenting situation that I wanted help with. At the time (10 years ago), I was taking a parenting class with my husband because we were both exasperated by our daughter’s behavior after her baby sister was born. Here’s the scenario . . . perhaps you’ve experienced something similar? It’s bath time, and my 4YO daughter is happily splashing around, diving underwater with her swim goggles on. Mom:  Time to get out of the tub.  You…
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Four Tips Backed By Positive Discipline That Will Make Your Kids Routine Charts Actually Work

Four Tips Backed By Positive Discipline That Will Make Your Kids Routine Charts Actually Work

Parenting, Parenting Solutions, Positive Discipline, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Tweens 10-12 years
Over the summer, my 9 year old daughter began having trouble falling asleep. "I just can't sleep!!" she whined (and she really meant it.) After several weeks of trying to talk her out of her insomnia, I decided a new bedtime routine was in order. We brainstormed the steps, and decided to include a short foot massage in the routine. We also brought back lullabies, which we hadn't sung in years. We wrote it down with colorful markers and I'll be darned if that new routine didn't do the trick. Why are routines, and more specifically routine charts one of the most effective tools you can find to reduce morning, bedtime and homework battles? Many reasons! First, when practiced regularly, routines become automatic. We no longer have to expend energy…
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One of The Most Wonderful Gifts You Can Give Your Child

One of The Most Wonderful Gifts You Can Give Your Child

Kids 5 - 12 years, Positive Discipline
One of the best gifts you can give your child this Holiday Season can't be found at a store. You can’t wrap it up, and they won’t be asking for it.  But they need it more than anything, and it doesn’t cost a dime. A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water. - Rudolf Dreikurs Think of someone in your life who was encouraging.  What did they do?  What did they say?  How did they see you? When I ask this question in parenting classes, the responses look something like this: they noticed my strengths they spent time with me they believed in me they loved me unconditionally they helped me learn new skills they really listened to me And yet, when our kids are messing up or misbehaving, it’s so easy to slip…
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Your Blueprint for Transforming Yelling into Cooperation

Your Blueprint for Transforming Yelling into Cooperation

Family Communication, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Positive Discipline
How to Put Positive Discipline Tools into Action and Encourage Your Child to Listen “He never listens to me!” “I have to tell him 10 times!” “She’ll only pay attention if I yell!” How many of you have ever felt this way? Chances are that nearly all of us have felt irritated by our child’s inability to listen and follow through with simple requests at one time or another. Years ago, my child was soooooo adept at ignoring my requests that I actually took him to the ear doctor. His ears were fine. My parenting needed some fine-tuning, however. What I learned was that my shouting from across the house or lecturing about why my request was perfectly reasonable, and why was it so hard to listen and follow through with such simple…
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