Enabling Children To Express All Of Their Emotions.

Enabling Children To Express All Of Their Emotions.

Alternatives to Punishment, Family Communication, Parenting
You know that feeling when you're standing in the middle of the supermarket and your child picks that exact moment to have an almighty meltdown? Or when you have people visiting and your child decides that they don't want to play with the visiting children, and a tussle breaks out? There are moments in life that don't always go as smoothly as planned, and these can be embarrassing and stressful for us as parents. We feel as if it is our job to put a stop to the socially frowned upon behaviour quickly, and resume the peace. But often this can lead us to gloss over the real need behind the behaviours. In an attempt to prevent a scene, parents use all the tricks to coerce their child in to…
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Positive Parenting Tools: Time In vs. Time Out

Positive Parenting Tools: Time In vs. Time Out

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Positive Discipline
Time out is a commonly used parenting practice to stop children from misbehaving. It has often been thought of as a non punitive alternative to harsher discipline such as spanking, however there are times when using time out can turn into a power struggle, and has the potential to leave children feeling vulnerable, upset, confused and insecure. Time in is a parenting practice that can respectfully create a chance for children to change their behavior. Children really thrive when they feel loved and a sense of connection to their parents and caregivers. When children feel that they belong, when they sense that their words and ideas matter and they have a chance to reflect on their behavior they are more likely to want to change their behavior to something more…
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10 Playful Solutions For Morning & Evening Routines : Parents S.H.A.R.E

10 Playful Solutions For Morning & Evening Routines : Parents S.H.A.R.E

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
“Play is our brain’s favorite way of learning.” -Diane Ackerman In this Parents S.H.A.R.E. post, our positive parenting community is sharing how they have used play as a parenting tool when faced with a variety of challenges during the morning and evening routines, from races to singing silly songs here are many fun ideas!!  Make it a RACE!  One of my favorites is racing to see who gets dressed first, my daughter or Tiger. We have no argument about getting dressed. -Amanda D My three girls like to race and see who will be the first to have everything done for bed first. The oldest sometimes even slows down and lets her sisters be winners too. -Darci We make a race to get down to the bus stop every morning and sometimes we…
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7 Ideas to Prevent After School Meltdowns

7 Ideas to Prevent After School Meltdowns

Alternatives to Punishment, Family Communication, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting
Although school can be a very rewarding experience for preschoolers and school children alike, this time away from mom and/or dad can sometimes lead to feelings of disconnection and overwhelm. Much like adults have tough days and bad moods, children sometimes experience all sorts of ups and downs while away from school.  The disconnect from parents coupled with all that roller coaster ride of managing feelings  can bring on some challenging behaviors. Have you noticed your child is having some difficult afternoons, tough bed times, siblings squabbles, meltdowns and tantrums after school?  Making some effort to restore connection can not only prevent all that "misbehavior" but create more harmony in your home.  Here are 7 ways to stay connected & reconnect after a long day at school as a way to prevent after school meltdowns: Hugs: Little…
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Time Out vs. Time In: What’s the difference?

Time Out vs. Time In: What’s the difference?

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Positive Discipline
What is the difference between a time out and time in? Is one better than the other? Sometimes positive discipline tools can seem similar to the traditional discipline tactics. Often people say it's just semantics.  What sets the positive tools apart from punitive discipline is not only the way in which they are presented to the child but also the intent (non punitive) and aim of the parents in using the tools. Let's look at the differences between time out and time in:  The traditional time out is when a child is told  to go  somewhere (like a chair or facing a wall), alone for a determined number of minutes.  Often parents are told to withhold attention and ignore any cries or requests from the child when using a time out. Although…
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Toddlers making Trouble:  11 Alternatives to Time Outs

Toddlers making Trouble: 11 Alternatives to Time Outs

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Toddlers don’t really mean to be making trouble, they spend their days trying to understand and discover their environment, their place and space in the world. They are growing and learning how to coordinate their bodies and regulate impulses. Just about every day, toddlers make mistakes, they create messes and do things that are sometimes hard for us parents to comprehend and then – gasp - they do it all over again! Often, it’s hard to know how to best handle the messy, sassy, yucky situations. Time outs are so popular in the toddler years, yet just placing a toddler in the corner or on a naughty chair is unlikely to prevent a re-occurance as toddlers will not really learn by pouting all alone, in fact they might feel upset,…
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Three Real Alternatives to Spanking

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting
Last week I read an article in Healthland/Time about Parents Spanking Their Kids. Very honestly, I did not find it surprising to read about parents that admit to using corporal punishment because I am very aware that it happens, across all socio- economic levels and different cultures.I do however find it unfortunate both for the children and parents. As the article states: Children who are spanked occasionally are not thought to be significantly impacted later on, but those who are spanked regularly are more likely to have behavior problems that may escalate into antisocial behavior. They may also be at greater risk for anxiety disorders or depression and ultimately may be more likely to engage in domestic violence and child abuse as adults. So parents displaying aggression and violence lead…
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Choosing The Path To Practicing Punishment Free Parenting

Choosing The Path To Practicing Punishment Free Parenting

Alternatives to Punishment
My children have been punishment free for nearly two years now. Somewhere around five hundred days, it's a long time. With three small children that are curious, active, spunky and growing, there have been plenty of opportunities to challenge myself, or rather ourselves, as my husband has been practicing punishment free parenting right along with me, to implement and practice alternatives to punishment. Raising Children Without Punishment Yes in all seriousness we have not punished, shamed, isolated or otherwise taken actions that are commonly associated with traditional discipline and raising children in the last two years.We have not become permissive, anything goes, no limits, dump your trash anywhere you want, "sit back and let the children run the house" kind of parents either. Prior to our resolve to go punishment…
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