Teaching Children Respect

Teaching Children Respect

Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Teens 13-18 Years, Tweens 10-12 years
"Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them." - James Baldwin Children are mirrors; they reflect back to us everything we say and do. We now know that 95% of everything children learn, they learn from what is modeled for them. Only 5% of all they learn is from direct instruction. Human beings are like tape recorders. Every word we hear, everything we experience, is permanently recorded in our subconscious. Whenever adults speak, we are being role models for the children in our presence. What we speak is what we teach. Children record every word we ever say to them or in front of them. The language children grow up hearing is the language they will speak. We often…
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9 Respectful Ways To Stay Involved In Your Teen’s Life

9 Respectful Ways To Stay Involved In Your Teen’s Life

Parenting, Positive Discipline, Teens 13-18 Years
Snooping or Shaming Teens Will Not Give You More Control or Respect: Here is What Will. Teens...One minute they want all of our attention, and the next they want nothing to do with us. What happened to my open, sometimes clingy son? He used to share everything with me. He became secretive and elusive. My questions were answered with grunts, if at all. I remember really missing the younger years, as our sons became teenagers. So what happens to our children as they enter their teen years? They shift from getting everything they want and need from parents to their peers. This is a normal stage of development called “individuation.” And, it can be really hard for us parents not to take it personally. It may also feel like your teenager…
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Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Family Communication, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Teens 13-18 Years, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Disappointment can be like a tidal wave of emotions for your kids. Image this scenario: The van is packed, and you’re about ready to head out the door. Suddenly, you hear thunder in the distance. No! It can’t be! You checked the weather, and it wasn’t supposed to rain for a few more hours. But minutes later, the rain is pouring down outside. Three children stare at you. “When are we going to the beach, mom?” Bracing yourself, you cautiously say, “Well...it’s raining...we can’t go to the beach today.” In an instant, one child is crying and flopping around on the ground; another child is throwing things, kicking you and yelling; and a third is pouting, staring out the window. Three disappointed kids. Now what? How to Help Your Child When They…
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How Goal Setting with your Tween can Build Connection

How Goal Setting with your Tween can Build Connection

Parenting, Teens 13-18 Years
Goal setting is something that it really important to me. I think I love goal setting because is it an opportunity to get a big picture look at where I am at and dream big for where I want to be. I am all about action, and goals are the action we take to live the life we want. As we head in to this New Year, I am finding myself really wanting to support my (almost) 12-year-old daughter in setting some goals. It’s not so much the goals that I want her to focus on, but rather that process of taking stock and looking ahead. Now, my daughter isn’t always super game to go along with all of my warm and fuzzy, relationship building shenanigans… So I knew that…
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Teenagers: Competent & Capable

Teenagers: Competent & Capable

Parenting, Teens 13-18 Years
Often the struggles we find ourselves caught in with our children can be eased by recognizing and honoring their age appropriate capabilities. And with their capable, competent selves appreciated and affirmed, we can now build a strong foundation for the future independent and successful adult we all hope for. Isn?t this just what our parenting journey is all about? Growing an adult ready and able to live well? Just what does capable and competent look like through the ages? This series at positive parenting connection covers the different ages & stages from Babies on up, bringing you great information about each phase of childhood! This is the last part in the series: Teens! A tumultuous and terrific time! On the verge of adulthood and incredibly competent and capable...often much to…
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