Sticker Charts: Do All Kids Want One?

Sticker Charts: Do All Kids Want One?

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This post is from Michelle Carchrae.It’s become one of the ubiquitous symbols of modern childhood: the sticker chart. Kids have reward charts at home, at school, at daycare and preschool and, as we discovered last week, at the public library.  When we staggered up to the checkout desk with our books, the librarian suggested that Beatrice sign up for the summer reading program.  So we did.  But when we got home, we discovered she has almost zero interest in colouring in the symbols that represent each 15 minutes of reading time.  In fact, I can barely convince her to do it.  I haven’t tried that hard, but still.  This reward chart isn’t doing anything to motivate my child to read. So why do so many people in charge of caring for…
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What are You Focusing on, the Behavior or Situation?

What are You Focusing on, the Behavior or Situation?

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Sometimes as parents we get stuck on focusing just on certain behaviors that we dislike and forget to look at the full situation we are dealing with.  For example, your child is crying, screaming, having a big, tantruming fit! You wish your child would stop, you wish the tears would subside, the screaming would go away and all would be well again.  It's aggravating, it's difficult, and you really feel like screaming "STOP IT!" When our own patience is running thin, our emotions high, it's so tempting to shush our child in the middle of their tantrum, or yell at them to stop.  In that moment, it's really, quite difficult to find CALM and empathy. I've been there, in that moment, when my automatic response was to think time out or walking away was…
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