Positive Parenting: Six Tips for Channeling Calm So You Don’t Yell at Your Kids

Positive Parenting: Six Tips for Channeling Calm So You Don’t Yell at Your Kids

Parenting
Anger and yelling are both issues that often come bubbling up to the surface in parenting as sleep deprivation, stress, exhaustion, and a hundred tiny frustrations through the day all mix together. Nothing forces us face down our demons quite like becoming a parent. Everything that you are, good and bad, will be reflected in those little eyes staring up at you. Getting control of our anger is important work. Studies show that yelling at kids can be just as harmful as physical discipline. Harsh verbal discipline increases a child’s risk for depression and aggressive behavior, and the damage isn’t just done to our kids. It hurts us, too. It damages our relationships and our own self-esteem, and because it frequently leads to actions we regret (yelling, saying hurtful words,…
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10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

Parenting
Positive Parenting means all things to all parents. It is not one size fits all. Sometimes it is referred to as gentle guidance or positive discipline. The commonalities, however, in most people's approach to positive parenting is that it actively avoids punishment and control. Instead it leans more towards connection to cultivate cooperation, empathy and natural cause and effect of our actions. I have found Positive Parenting has worked for me. It has helped me develop some pretty amazing skills and also to really know myself. It is still a challenge to find the right balance but after thirteen years of parenting I have gained some fantastic insights. I hope these insights support you in some way to stick with your positive parenting journey and whatever that is for you.…
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Are Natural Consequences A Good Discipline Choice?

Are Natural Consequences A Good Discipline Choice?

Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
  Natural Consequences are often talked about as the go-to gentle alternative to punitive actions like time-outs or removing privileges. Using natural consequences can, in fact, be an excellent parenting tool, but sometimes resorting to natural consequences may be ineffective and downright dangerous. When used properly, children can learn a lot from natural consequences, however sometimes those consequences might simply not bring about the learning from our child that we wish to see.  Read about how Natural Consequences can be a powerful tool for gentle parenting in my post at Natural Parents Network - Is That Natural Consequence You are Allowing Really a Good Discipline Choice?
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Encouraging Patience In Ourselves and Our Children: Nurturing Patience Part 2

Encouraging Patience In Ourselves and Our Children: Nurturing Patience Part 2

Parenting
Patience can't be acquired overnight. It is just like building up a muscle. Every day you need to work on it. ~ Eknath Easwaran *This is part two of the Nurturing Patience series by Kerry Spina* Patience is a character strength that helps us to slow down and practice mindfulness. It helps us work at our own natural pace. It allows us to respond to life’s challenges rather than react to them. Patience brings more love, calm, peace and acceptance into our life. Modeling Patience A simple and effective way to encourage patience is with your tone of voice and body language. It is said that communication is 93% nonverbal (35% Body language, 58% tone) and 7% words. So it is not only what is said but how it is…
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Soothing the crying baby: How to Tackle the Witching Hour

Soothing the crying baby: How to Tackle the Witching Hour

Babies 0-12 months, Parenting
Crying is how babies communicate and yet, it's not always easy to cope with the witching hour. In this post, Renee Peters is sharing some really wonderful ideas for how to cope in a positive and peaceful way. ** Witching hour is quite normal. When you think about it, a baby has been in a quiet, soothing, relaxing, dim and predictable place for 9 months then they’re not even on earth for that amount of time and are expected to cope with bright lights, loud noises, and everyday life. Consider this… As the day stretches on, baby gets a build-up of over stimulation, maybe a build-up of wind and tiredness, so approaching 5 pm is the time baby gets fussy and demanding. This is when the daily routine changes, when…
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Enabling Children To Express All Of Their Emotions.

Enabling Children To Express All Of Their Emotions.

Alternatives to Punishment, Family Communication, Parenting
You know that feeling when you're standing in the middle of the supermarket and your child picks that exact moment to have an almighty meltdown? Or when you have people visiting and your child decides that they don't want to play with the visiting children, and a tussle breaks out? There are moments in life that don't always go as smoothly as planned, and these can be embarrassing and stressful for us as parents. We feel as if it is our job to put a stop to the socially frowned upon behaviour quickly, and resume the peace. But often this can lead us to gloss over the real need behind the behaviours. In an attempt to prevent a scene, parents use all the tricks to coerce their child in to…
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The 1st Birthday Party! Supporting and Celebrating Your Baby.

The 1st Birthday Party! Supporting and Celebrating Your Baby.

Babies 0-12 months, Help By Age & Stage, Parenting
**This post is by Liza, who is sharing some gentle and supportive ways to celebrate a first birthday!** The first birthday is such an important milestone in your baby's life (and yours too). So how can you avoid the stress that often accompanies such milestones and ensure that both you and your baby enjoy the day? In western culture (as in many other cultures) birthdays, especially children's birthdays, are one of the most significant celebration days. When you think about that moment of birth when your child entered this world, there is little wonder that this is so. When we celebrate a first birthday we are celebrating the miracle of birth and the unique person who was brought into the world on that day. A first birthday celebration is particularly…
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Essential Weaning Q&A

Essential Weaning Q&A

Parenting
**Today I am sharing a Q&A with Wendi Blaire, author of Hello Milk, Bye Bye Milk: An Expert Mom's Ultimate Guide to Breastfeeding and Weaning**  Let's start with the basics, what is weaning? Weaning is the process of switching a baby from milk to solid foods. It is ideally a slow process. Weaning cold turkey is harmful to the baby and to the mother. Unable to understand why he is suddenly deprived of milk, the infant may end up with baby colic. The mother may suffer from breast engorgement and maternal duress from the baby’s incessant crying.  It can also be emotionally difficult for both mom and baby to wean suddenly. When is the best time for mom to wean baby? Each baby develops at a different rate. The growth…
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Weaning Gently: Three Special Ideas for Success

Weaning Gently: Three Special Ideas for Success

Nutrition, Parenting
Welcome to the Carnival of Weaning: Weaning - Your Stories This post was written for inclusion in the Carnival of Weaning hosted by Code Name: Mama and Aha! Parenting. Our participants have shared stories, tips, and struggles about the end of the breastfeeding relationship. Breastfeeding is a special time for both moms and babies. Often when mothers talk about weaning, they compare notes on the crying, the engorgement, the hassle and the confusion that it caused. The good news is that weaning can be a gentle and positive experience full of joy both for mom and child.  In deciding when the right time to wean is, I encourage mothers to find the timing that works best for them and their child. This particular post is intended for moms that are interested,…
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First Year Series: The Mother Within

First Year Series: The Mother Within

Parenting
The first year of motherhood is extraordinary - so many changes, so many possibilities.  The First Year Series at Positive Parenting Connection is aimed at giving first time mothers a chance to share their  experiences with other readers to inspire, share, enjoy and celebrate the journey of motherhood. Today I am weloming first time mom, Liza, author and creator of baby/food blog PramSandwich.  Liza is sharing all about finding and listening to the mother within. *** When my baby was born, suddenly the world was reduced to just him and me. All I could think about those first few days was how precious he was and how I would do anything to protect him. In hospital I lay awake watching him in his crib and waiting until I could hold…
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