Why Preschoolers Know Much Better Than They Behave

Why Preschoolers Know Much Better Than They Behave

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Parenting Solutions, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
Parents are routinely confused when their preschooler (aged 2 to 5) promises they won’t hit or scream only to turn around and hit or scream again. Part of the problem is young children don’t think twice nor contemplate the consequences of their actions in the heat of the moment. I can assure you this is not part of a secret plot to drive parents crazy and it isn’t personal either. Preschoolers know much better than they can behave and are impulsive by design. The parts of the brain responsible for self-control are still under development in young children. The brain is only 20% developed at birth and will ideally become more integrated in the first 6 years of life. In other words, the brain is still forming connections that will…
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10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

10 Things Learned from Choosing a Gentle, Positive Parenting Path

Parenting
Positive Parenting means all things to all parents. It is not one size fits all. Sometimes it is referred to as gentle guidance or positive discipline. The commonalities, however, in most people's approach to positive parenting is that it actively avoids punishment and control. Instead it leans more towards connection to cultivate cooperation, empathy and natural cause and effect of our actions. I have found Positive Parenting has worked for me. It has helped me develop some pretty amazing skills and also to really know myself. It is still a challenge to find the right balance but after thirteen years of parenting I have gained some fantastic insights. I hope these insights support you in some way to stick with your positive parenting journey and whatever that is for you.…
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Dealing with the Feeling: How to Calm Your Child and Yourself

Parenting
Guest Contributor Roma Khetarpal, Author of The “Perfect” Parent, 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids. Morning tantrums, power struggles, bad behavior, homework not turned in, sibling fights, bedtime negotiations…does it ever end? Welcome to parenting, day in day out! How can I possibly stay positive and tuned in through all of this? is a question that parents ask me all the time. Communication Balance The key for parents is to turn the above-mentioned communication breakdowns into communication breakthroughs. How do you do that? In order to answer that, let’s explore the three main elements of communication: Thought + Feelings --> Expressions What we say and do is fired up by our thoughts and feelings. In order to enhance communication, our thoughts and feelings should…
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Dealing with Defiance, Moving Beyond Power Struggles & More: Dr. Laura Answers Your Questions

Dealing with Defiance, Moving Beyond Power Struggles & More: Dr. Laura Answers Your Questions

Help By Age & Stage
Today I am welcoming Dr. Laura Markham, creator of Aha!Parenting and author of the new book Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids to the Blog with answers to questions from our community members. Dr. Laura is talking about how to tackle Discipline Differences Between Parents, Dealing with Defiance, Moving beyond Power Struggles, Telling the Truth About Santa Clause, Sibling Harmony and Sibling Competition and What to do when Tempers Flare!  This post is packed full of excellent information and ideas for peaceful, positive minded parents!! Plus, read to the end to find out how you can enter for a chance to win your very own copy of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids. Telling the Truth About Santa Clause From Jennifer: Suggestions on how to talk to my inquisitive ~ 4 yr old about Santa. We…
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Capable & Independent Children: A Photo Essay

Parenting
**This is a guest post from Aleta of Hinterland Mama** You know your children are growing up, when... They are visibly capable and independent! And I, as a Mama and primary caregiver, take absolute pride in that. I know many people didn't agree with my supervised, almost 2 year old playing with my pin cushion while I was sewing. But if my eldest - Mr Turtle - pricked his finger (I think he only did it once or twice), he learnt quickly not to! And now, he and his brother, confidently sew for themselves and gifts for their friends. Little Pipkin turned age 4 and Mr Turtle, age 5 this April. I love that they are able to accomplish, Oh so many things!   I have always encouraged my boys to help out…
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Sharing Sunday

Sharing Sunday

Parenting
Happy Sunday! I'm packing today, taking a much awaited family vacation to see many friends after a long three years of living far away!   So for the next two weeks, I will be away hopefully soaking up some sun, recharging, creating memories and sharing a lot of  laughter with the family. I have lined up several guest posts from wonderful writers for the time I am taking off: Kelly Bartlett of Parenting from Scratch Jennifer of Hybrid Rasta Mama Kelly of KellyNaturally Aleta of Hinterland Mama Gena Kirby of Progressive Parenting Wendi Blair, author of Hello Milk, Bye Bye Milk Miriam Katz, Co-author of The Other Baby Book Clare Kirkpatrick, a former NCT breastfeeding counsellor and author of The Awakend Parent   So, there are lots of great posts coming up…
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Creating a Yes Environment

Creating a Yes Environment

Parenting
*** Toddlers hear the word NO! on average 300 times - have you heard this statistic?  Today I am welcoming Sam from Love Parenting with a guest post on creating a YES environment for our children!*** We get so frustrated when our children shout “No” at us, or refuse to follow important directions, but perhaps instead of looking outwardly at their behaviour, we should instead evaluate our own reactions. When we get in to the habit of telling our children “No” it becomes almost an automatic response. “Can I have.....” “No” “Can we go.....” “No” “Will you read....” “Wait” This extends outward so then its not just our standard answer when our children ask something of us, but its also the first thing we think when they are exploring and experimenting too. They climb on…
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Stimulating Summer Activities for Your Kids

Stimulating Summer Activities for Your Kids

Play and Learning
***Today I am sharing a guest post from Heather. She is sharing her ideas for creating stimulating summer activities for children.*** Despite the fact that kids count down until school lets out of the summer starting in January, once summer actually hits parents are often flooded with the constant cries of, “I’M BORED!” To counteract those complaints and get them away from the TV, here are four summer activities that will keep your kids stimulated without seeming like a school lesson… even if it really is one in disguise: 1. Have them create a nature journal – Get a journal where they can keep interesting leafs, take pictures of animals, and write down various rocks that they’ve found at the park and in the backyard. They’ll have a blast collecting…
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