Thoughts on Judgement, Guilt and Parenting

Parenting
**This is a Guest Post from Clare Kirkpatrick is a former NCT breastfeeding counsellor with over eight years experience of supporting parents in the early years of their children's lives.** I did a brief search of google for things to do with guilt – firstly just guilt as it stands, and then guilt with regard to motherhood and parenting. I also used different search terms – firstly ‘how not to feel guilty’ and secondly ‘made to feel guilty’ and boy was there a difference in the number of links returned! And, guess what! When I put in ‘made to feel guilty’ without any other words, so with no reference to parenting, nearly all the links were to do with decisions made by mothers (warning, some of these are links to…
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That Was Then…This is Now: 10 Things that Have Changed After Having Children.

That Was Then…This is Now: 10 Things that Have Changed After Having Children.

Parenting
Six years into motherhood and three children later, I have traded disposable income for disposable diapers and power suits for the occasional power struggle.  Many aspects of my life have changed, not necessarily for better or worse, some things are just  different. These are 10 things that have definitely changed: 1. Nine p.m. Then: The best time to leave the house for a night out in the town. Now: The time you will find me passed out on the couch pretending to watch a TV show but really catching up on sleep. 2. My car Then: A compact sedan, spotless and scented with cucumber-melon freshener – with a hint of dog hair. Now: A minivan, a.k.a. the vortex of cheerios, single socks, lost mittens and myriad of toys scented with…
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Television, Guilt and Jumping Jacks.

Television, Guilt and Jumping Jacks.

Parenting
 So my children watch television and often I feel guilty about it. It’s not so bad that it keeps me up at night. My little Bella nursing is the one doing that, but I digress. I don’t really think my children are being too terribly damaged by watching television; the truth is I just feel guilty because I didn’t really want them to watch until much later in life and it did not fit with my original pre-baby (perfectionist) parenting goals. With just one child, it was pretty easy to avoid the tv. My first was very content in a carrier or stacking wooden blocks or looking at books while I tended to the floors and dishes that would just not scrub themselves no matter how much I wished for that.…
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