When your Child Says: I Hate You!

When your Child Says: I Hate You!

Family Communication, Help By Age & Stage, Kids 5 - 12 years, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
The Most Helpful Parenting Response When a Child Says "I Hate You." When children feel disappointed, frustrated, angry or other difficult emotions, they may say hurtful words. Sometimes those words are  "I HATE YOU!" or "I hate you so much mom!" That small phrase packs quite the emotional punch - especially the very first time you hear it. Last summer, while on vacation, my four year old son asked for a toy at a store and I declined to buy it. My son's eyes squinted and his face tensed up as he said ever so clearly  "I hate you!" I had never heard such words from my son before and it was quite the surprise. The secret message behind your child's hurtful words "I hate you" is often code for something beyond…
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Nurturing Love: 5 Beautiful Ways to Grow the Bonds of Love with your Child

Nurturing Love: 5 Beautiful Ways to Grow the Bonds of Love with your Child

Family Communication, Parenting
Love is at the core of our existence and the thread that binds us.  It is a primary human emotional need to feel loved. Life is the flower for which love is the honey.  -Victor Hugo Nothing in the world is quite as heart opening as holding your child in your arms and enveloping them with your love.  We watch our children grow and develop through the milestones of their lives, as their character emerges, we nourish and nurture their strengths and individuality, we take photos and sometimes journal the events and happenings.  Knowing this brings us to a deeper realization of how love lasts over and over again and how the simple everyday acts of ‘love’ sustain us in our family life. You express your love for your child…
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Positive Parenting Isn’t Perfect Parenting and That’s OK

Positive Parenting Isn’t Perfect Parenting and That’s OK

Family Communication, Parenting
As a mom to three girls and as a child therapist, I’ve read piles of parenting books. My parenting philosophy has changed dramatically over the years. When I landed in the realm of “Positive Parenting,” I was hooked. I knew instinctively this was how I wanted to parent. Unfortunately, putting the methods in place was a different story. There are days that I speak calmly, kindly and lovingly to my children. We share hugs, stories and laughs. But, there are days when I overreact to a spilled bowl of cereal, impatiently rush people out the door to school and forget everything about responding positively to my tantruming four year old. After these negative interactions, I criticize myself as a parent. It’s as if I expect immediate positive parenting perfection. It…
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How Goal Setting with your Tween can Build Connection

How Goal Setting with your Tween can Build Connection

Parenting, Teens 13-18 Years
Goal setting is something that it really important to me. I think I love goal setting because is it an opportunity to get a big picture look at where I am at and dream big for where I want to be. I am all about action, and goals are the action we take to live the life we want. As we head in to this New Year, I am finding myself really wanting to support my (almost) 12-year-old daughter in setting some goals. It’s not so much the goals that I want her to focus on, but rather that process of taking stock and looking ahead. Now, my daughter isn’t always super game to go along with all of my warm and fuzzy, relationship building shenanigans… So I knew that…
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Preventing Failure is Not Equal to Encouraging Success

Preventing Failure is Not Equal to Encouraging Success

Help By Age & Stage
Sometimes I wish I could prevent every failure my children will ever face. No parent wants to see their child down, upset, limp, defeated. In failure, even if we'd rather not go through it, are moments of learning. So I will not prevent my children from failing. The truth is I wouldn't be able to anyways. Instead I will remind myself whenever is needed Preventing Failures is not equal to encouraging success. *** Don't be afraid that your child might fail at something they wish to do. See the beauty in that they are willing to try, that they have the courage to show up and the fearlessness to just give it a chance. Hugs at the end will work both to celebrate the accomplishment and/or the attempt and determination.…
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Positive Parenting: Do You See Your Wonderful Child?

Positive Parenting: Do You See Your Wonderful Child?

Family Communication, Parenting
Sometimes we get caught up with all the things we believe our children have to do, know and understand. We focus so much on how to change behaviors and control emotions. We have huge expectations, not just of our children but of ourselves. We want magical formulas or the best way to get children to do what we think they should do. In all that, sometimes we miss just how wonderful our children really are, right there, in that moment. Moments we can never take back. Do you ever get caught up with expectations, have to’s and should’s for your child? Do you worry that your child is not something you thought they would be or should be? "You are so full of happy mama!" said my three year old the…
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Soothing the crying baby: How to Tackle the Witching Hour

Soothing the crying baby: How to Tackle the Witching Hour

Babies 0-12 months, Parenting
Crying is how babies communicate and yet, it's not always easy to cope with the witching hour. In this post, Renee Peters is sharing some really wonderful ideas for how to cope in a positive and peaceful way. ** Witching hour is quite normal. When you think about it, a baby has been in a quiet, soothing, relaxing, dim and predictable place for 9 months then they’re not even on earth for that amount of time and are expected to cope with bright lights, loud noises, and everyday life. Consider this… As the day stretches on, baby gets a build-up of over stimulation, maybe a build-up of wind and tiredness, so approaching 5 pm is the time baby gets fussy and demanding. This is when the daily routine changes, when…
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Beyond Discipline: Building Block for Positive Parenting #1

Beyond Discipline: Building Block for Positive Parenting #1

Help By Age & Stage, Parenting
Welcome to the Beyond Discipline: 10 Building Blocks for Positive Parenting Series. This is the 1st post in a series of 10 posts on the Building Blocks for positive parenting. If you missed it, the INTRO post is here.   This series is intended to share the building blocks for positive parenting. The ideas posted here may challenge what you believe, or re-affirm the path you are on – there are no MUSTS being set here, no promises of quick fixes or fail-proof methods….what I’m sharing are building blocks (ideas)  to help you put the focus of your parenting where you feel it needs to be. Each week I will be sharing ONE building block along with questions intended for reflection and personal growth and share some tools and ideas for implementing each…
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Weekend Challenge: The Bond Of Love

Weekend Challenge: The Bond Of Love

Parenting
  Parenting provides you with the opportunity to fall in love over and over again. The bond of love deepens as you actively care for your child. What is amazing is how this love, the nonverbal emotional connection between child and parent, a.k.a. the attachment bond, impacts his future mental, physical, and emotional health. Long ago, a notion came about that children could be spoiled by love. Parents were instructed to change, feed and interact with a child in a detached manner...This has long since been proven false  not just by mamas and papas that trusted their instinct but by science as well. This weekend don't be afraid to show your love. ? Whatever way that may be for you.  Hug. Play. Listen. Respond. Care. Peace & Be Well, Ariadne…
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3 quick projects for Father’s Day!

3 quick projects for Father’s Day!

Play and Learning
Father's Day is coming up soon... here are three easy projects to whip up in 30 minutes, 15 minutes and 5 minutes or less! Spoiler alert...to my favorite subscriber (aka hubby - stop reading now!) The 30 min Photo Mobile: All you will need is some card stock or construction paper, a few pictures, glue, scissors, fishing line or string, hole punch or pin and some glitter and stickers for decor.  Decide how many pictures too hang, these instructions are for three but you can always add more. Cut out a card stock rectangle as the mobile top, punch one hole at the top and three holes  on the opposite end for hanging the pictures. Add a message like Happy Father's Day!" or "We love hanging with you DAD!" Cut…
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