When your Child Says: I Hate You!

When your Child Says: I Hate You!

Family Communication, Help By Age & Stage, Kids 5 - 12 years, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
The Most Helpful Parenting Response When a Child Says "I Hate You." When children feel disappointed, frustrated, angry or other difficult emotions, they may say hurtful words. Sometimes those words are  "I HATE YOU!" or "I hate you so much mom!" That small phrase packs quite the emotional punch - especially the very first time you hear it. Last summer, while on vacation, my four year old son asked for a toy at a store and I declined to buy it. My son's eyes squinted and his face tensed up as he said ever so clearly  "I hate you!" I had never heard such words from my son before and it was quite the surprise. The secret message behind your child's hurtful words "I hate you" is often code for something beyond…
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Spank Out Day: 3 Untruths and 11 Alternatives to Spanking

Spank Out Day: 3 Untruths and 11 Alternatives to Spanking

Parenting
Today is the 13th National Spank Out Day USA. Welcome to the Spank Out Day 2012 CarnivalThis post was written for inclusion in the Second Annual Spank Out Day Carnival hosted by Zoie at TouchstoneZ. Spank Out Day was created by The Center for Effective Discipline to give attention to the need to end corporal punishment of children and to promote non-violent ways of teaching children appropriate behavior. All parents, guardians, and caregivers are encouraged to refrain from hitting children on April 30th each year, and to seek alternative methods of discipline through programs available in community agencies, churches and schools. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants. *** Practically every professional organization in the U.S. and Canada that is concerned…
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Sharing Sunday

Sharing Sunday

Parenting
It's Sunday again!  We had a wonderful family weekend with water play, swimming, dancing, swinging in beach-towels and eating popsicles. Tomorrow is Spank Out Day USA - I'll be posting something on some untruths about spanking and offering a list of alternatives as well as links to other sites that are participating in Spank Out Day. Also coming up this week an opportunity (giveaway!) to connect with a life coach and learn more about the importance of taking time for yourself. Plus a new post with ideas for coping with toddler clingy-ness. And now onto Sunday Sharing: Three great reads on positive parenting & motherhood. Alfie Kohn shares fantastic insights in a recent article: In short, the best parents acknowledge the needs of their children (as distinct from their own),…
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