Not Now, I’m Busy! Remembering The Gift of Presence

Not Now, I’m Busy! Remembering The Gift of Presence

Family Communication, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Present…to our children, to our lives:  written by Alice Hanscam Technology  has increased our opportunities to accomplish things, as well as increased the things we need to accomplish. And I wonder, at what cost to the important relationships around us? As your attention gets pulled in multiple directions, how are you feeling? Satisfied at accomplishing so much? Energized by your success? Or perhaps, like many of my clients, you are feeling frenzied and stressed, finding relief and ease only when you?ve put multi-tasking aside, bringing your attention to what?s right in front of you—maybe a chore, or more often your child. As parents, we are continuously looking at what?s best for our children. How often have you found yourself saying, “Not now, I?m busy,” “Yes, I?m listening,” “Let me just do one more thing,” “Just a minute…maybe later…I?ll be…
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The Power of Pause

The Power of Pause

Family Communication, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting
Transforming Relationships One Pause at a Time My eldest daughter has been a great teacher for me—I like to refer to her as my “practice child,” for her younger sister has reaped the benefits of all that I?ve learned from her. My greatest lesson? The power of pause. It seems to me this is the baseline for growing positive, respectful, all around healthy relationships with our children…and it took my child to bring it to my attention. I admit, I am still working on on developing this skill—it is difficult, and the results can be amazing—often transformational. As Emily entered the teen years, our altercations ramped up. One particular time stands out as a turning point in my awareness of the value of pausing. Emily wanted something and I was…
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Saying Yes More than Saying No

Saying Yes More than Saying No

Help By Age & Stage, Parenting
Source: thechive.com via Ariadne on Pinterest   How often in a day do our children ask us for something and we jump on auto pilot and say NO? While there are certainly times to say no, there are also many times when we can stop, evaluate, rephrase and choose YES! A while ago, we are all getting ready to walk to the recycling center and my son asked to stay home alone.  Being 5 years old, I didn't feel it was appropriate but I also did not want to answer with a big fat NO because I knew, in that moment,he was totally immersed into his play and a giant NO was only going to close the doors on our communication. Instead, I looked for ways to transform our situation…
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