Weekend Challenge: Saying Yes to Love

Weekend Challenge: Saying Yes to Love

Parenting
Everyone wants to feel loved. Everyone NEEDS to feel loved. For many parents the connection between "good" behavior and showing love to a child is a very powerful one. Sometimes parents feel they must withhold love if a child is acting "badly". This conditioned thought may stem from our own childhood where we felt approved and loved when we were "good" or "deserving" of love. Children however often need to feel loved, connected and welcomed when they seem to least deserve it.  In that very moment when they act out, pout, yell, bang the door, kick, cry....right then, that is when they really need you to say yes to love.  When we choose to say yes to love we are nurturing and cultivating connection. Will you try it? Will you try saying YES…
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Weekend Challenge: What do you need?

Weekend Challenge: What do you need?

Family Communication, Parenting
What do you need?  When asked with kind intent this powerful question demonstrates empathy, care and a desire to understand and connect. Ask yourself what YOU need for yourself: when you care for your needs you can meet the needs of others with an open heart and centered mind. Ask your children what THEY need. Food, rest, play, hugs, a helping hand, encouragement, companionship or a listening ear... Try to listen and honor the physical and emotional needs and strengthen your connection!
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The Positive Parenting Promise: Because Change Begins at Home.

The Positive Parenting Promise: Because Change Begins at Home.

Parenting, Positive Discipline
To my child: I wish for you to live in a world in which peace prevails over violence. Because change begins at home, this is my promise to you: ? I promise to be a kind and loving parent. I will hug you, cherish you, listen to and respect you. ? I promise to encourage you, include you, share with you and learn with you. ? I promise to search and use peaceful and positive alternatives to solve problems that may arise in our family. ? I promise to focus on solutions, cooperation and understanding instead of merely trying to impose my ways.  ? I promise to not force obedience by using violence or punishment including any and all forms of hitting, spanking or “smacking”. ? I promise not to demean you, or humiliate…
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Two Boys and Papa in the Kitchen: Recipe For Disaster?

Family Communication, Parenting
  Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: Kids in the Kitchen This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how kids get involved in cooking and feeding. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.   The kitchen is my domain - i'm in it probably more than any othe room in the house. More hours than I can even count. Involving my three kiddos with cooking has become routine for us.  From cracking eggs to mashing potatoes and crushing crackers to make crust, over time i have figuredout a way to modify and hand over tasks to the "mini chefs" as…
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This One Life Together

Parenting
Welcome to the July Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting Philosophy This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared their parenting practices and how they fit in with their parenting purpose. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants. ***   This One Life Together: a parenting philosophy in the making. My parenting philosophy somewhat summarized is this: This ONE life together. Me, my children, my husband, our family; in the here and now, in this one life that we each have, is the time to love, discover and laugh together. It’s the time to build and enjoy the foundation for a happy, healthy…
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Rewind, Recharge, Refocus.

Parenting, Positive Discipline
Rewind. Recharge, Refocus. One peaceful strategy to avoid a tantrum. Most days our house wakes up to smiles and cuddles.  Other times it all goes well until the one and only beloved “stripy” T-shirt turns out not to be dry thus throwing a wrench into one pre-schoolers’ plans. A grumpy growl face then instigates the toddler and well it could get very hectic from this point on but if I am awake enough to get my game on this is how I try to save the day. Pause and Rewind: It's sort of like a do-over. I empathize with the frustrations and then I suggest we rewind the moment. Often we add in a little turning in a circle for flair and fun of course. In itself this little turn…
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