How To Stop Toddler Defiance with Positive Guidance

How To Stop Toddler Defiance with Positive Guidance

Alternatives to Punishment, Parenting, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Defiant toddlers are often mislabeled as having a behavior problem.  In most cases, toddler defiance is actually just a sign of healthy development. Toddlers that like to say NO and “put their foot down” are not only developing well, they are actively exploring their emotional intelligence. Positive guidance can help toddlers grow well and thrive.  Mauren Healy, author and expert on highly sensitive children says “The act of defiance is displaying an inordinately high level of emotional intelligence --- your children are actually listening to their inner wisdom.” Toddler defiance is usually age appropriate and at the same time very challenging. "Gena is constantly climbing on our garden rocks. No matter how much I say no, put her in time out or explain she is going to get hurt, the next day, I find…
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40 Questions That Get Kids Talking

40 Questions That Get Kids Talking

Family Communication, Help By Age & Stage, Kids 5 - 12 years, Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
One great way to encourage children to open up is to make a habit of cherishing daily conversations with your child. Conversations build connection. When children feel connected to their parent, they are more likely to feel well and be cooperative. When we pause and listen, we can really get to know so much about our children. Sometimes our children don’t readily open up and share about their day. It can be frustrating when all you want is to talk to your child and you are met with a frown and heavy sighs...Ever felt like you don't know what to ask to get a child to open up? Most parents really do want to know about their child's thoughts, dreams and concerns.To raise resilient, happy children, It's important to listen to our…
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One Sure Way To Encourage Cooperation in Early Childhood

One Sure Way To Encourage Cooperation in Early Childhood

Family Communication, Parenting, Positive Discipline, Toddlers 12- 36 months
One very challenging task in the early years of parenting is finding ways to encourage cooperation and listening. Toddlers and pre-schoolers are notorious for saying "NO!" "I can't" and "I don't want to!" especially in moments when we would like to hear "yes mama!" and "OK" In the name of getting things done, it is so tempting to engage in demanding and nagging:  "Come on..." And even pleading "Will you please, just put your second shoe on sweet darling!" Of course there is the bribing and prize routes that often just leads to time outs and consequences....but toddlers and preschoolers don't really mean to be making trouble. Young children are curious by nature and even defiant by design! But this is a good thing, as it helps them grow into resilient, capable beings! Growing…
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The Discipline Approach That Helps Babies and Toddlers Thrive

The Discipline Approach That Helps Babies and Toddlers Thrive

Parenting
Taking a positive approach to discipline from the very start. Parents often spend a great deal of time in the early days invested in attending and understanding their babies cries and cues. When baby cries, you try to figure out what is needed. When baby is hungry you offer nourishment. When baby is tired, you help him find sleep.  And so, your relationship bond is nourished and trust becomes central to your daily interactions. With each of these interactions, your baby feels reassured, safe, at ease.  And you begin to build an understanding of who your child is, what he needs and how to best respond. Often it’s a trial and error kind of process. A best efforts and patience building, patience draining endeavor. At times it’s very tiring, but…
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Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs
Back-arching, jello legs, hitting, yelling, kicking, sobbing, throwing...a true melt-down or tantrum in progress...not very pretty nor fun and all while: ...in the middle of the cereal aisle in the grocery store--maybe with various items launching themselves out of the cart like one parent mentioned of recent regarding a jar of orange juice...and another, a jar of salsa... ...visiting your in-laws...you know, the ones who always leave you feeling less than adequate as a parent... ...exploring the museum that you finally got your courage up enough to take your child to because you REALLY wanted to show them the cool child-centered, hands-on exhibits that all your friends say are a must to see... ...at the restaurant squeezed into a tiny booth surrounded by dozens of other people enjoying their meals...enough…
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Discipline When Young Children Become Aggressive

Discipline When Young Children Become Aggressive

Help By Age & Stage, Parenting, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
 Aggressive toddlers and preschoolers benefit most from positive parental interventions when acting in unhelpful ways. When a young child acts aggressively it is typically a sign that she is feeling upset, scared or overwhelmed. Aggression can also be a sign your child has unmet needs.  It's normal and very typical for toddlers and preschoolers to struggle with aggression. With help from parents, young children can learn how to express anger in more helpful ways. To help children learn to better respond to overwhelm and anger, aggression is best seen not as bad behavior but instead as a request for parental guidance and validation.  So, what kind of discipline (guidance) do children need when they act aggressively? As parents, keeping our cool and helping children navigate intense feelings is key to reducing aggression…
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Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown

Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown

Help By Age & Stage, Toddlers 12- 36 months
The Volcano Effect: Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown By Elizabeth Pantley, Author of The No-Cry Nap Solution From the moment your child wakes in the morning he is slowly using up the benefits of the previous night’s sleep. He wakes up totally refreshed, but as the hours pass, little by little, the benefits of his sleep time are used up, and an urge to return to sleep begins to build. When we catch a child at in-between stages and provide naps, we build up his reservoir of sleep-related benefits, allowing him a “fresh start” after each sleep period. As shown on the sleep chart below, as children age, the length of time that they can stay “happily awake” increases. A newborn can only be awake one or two hours…
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Independent Play: Using Play Invitations To Encourage Imagination and Learning

Independent Play: Using Play Invitations To Encourage Imagination and Learning

Play and Learning, Preschoolers 3-5 yrs, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Independent play helps children feel confident, builds a sense of capability, concentration skills and creates many opportunities for discovery and learning. While children do not need intricate and overly elaborate toys or play opportunities to develop well, offering diverse play materials and new opportunities is a great way to help children enjoy their independent playtime. This is also a fantastic way to rotate toys that have been a bit forgotten and introduce new materials. So, a play invitation is simply setting out a specific play activity or a few toys on a surface that is easily accessible to the child, such as a small table or a blanket on the ground. Whatever toy or activity it is, it should be something the children can: Play without assistance and low supervision…
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Toddlers: Competent & Capable As They Grow

Toddlers: Competent & Capable As They Grow

Help By Age & Stage, Toddlers 12- 36 months
Our children are capable, competent beings from birth. Often the struggles we find ourselves caught in with our children can be eased by recognizing and honoring their age appropriate capabilities. And with their capable, competent selves appreciated and affirmed, we can now build a strong foundation for the future independent and successful adult we all hope for. This continuing series at Positive Parenting Connection will be covering the different ages & stages from Babies on up, bringing you great information about each phase of childhood. Part one was about Babies. Part II:  Toddlers! Oh what an astounding age. If we are slow on the uptake of increasing their opportunities to show how in charge and capable they can be, they will remind us. Over and over and over again until we get it right. The key? Including…
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Love Books Summer Exchange: Transforming Trash into Toys we Treasure

Love Books Summer Exchange: Transforming Trash into Toys we Treasure

Play and Learning
Simple fun is often the best kind of fun! My children and I were so excited just a week ago when we received a box full of trash in the mail from Krissy of B-Inspired Mama.   Why? Well, this summer I signed up to participate in the Love Books Summer Exchange hosted by The Educators Spin on It.  The idea is that bloggers send each other's families one book along with some kind of activity through the mail. We love books and book based activities so this seemed like a great idea! While Krissy sent me a message excusing the simplicity of the activity, I assured her that my children were beyond excited about the box and book we received. We love simple, open ended play and this box…
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